Body movements and facial gestures we make during a conversation convey much more information than we can deliver the talk. Many experts around the world published extensive work on the importance of language body and how we can manipulate it. The following list includes 25 gestures to avoid.
When we have a social gathering attended by people related to our work or a job interview, it is important to have a good posture. Specialists in body language as Hoppe Eliot, author of several books and an expert in this area, recommends “get right and apply a brisk walk, and we want to show our desire to be there and confidence in ourselves.”
Looking away when they speak
If we look at the eyes of a person who is speaking we will demonstrate safety and care. That attitude will be taken positively by the announcer. Quite the opposite will happen if we lower the look or change the focus to another sector. This can convey a sense of insecurity or lack of interest in the subject being treated.
Embracing objects during a conversation
If talking to someone hugged a stack of books, laptop or briefcase will be transmitting the feeling of shyness or discomfort. This attitude may be interpreted as a desire to hide behind an object. It is always best to keep elements by our side when talking.
The gesture of looking at our cell during any kind of talk is a strong signal that we do not care what the other person is saying. It can also be interpreted as an arrogant action. Always better to mute or turn off our cell phone if we are in an important conversation or meeting.
Not bad dressing “cool” or “be cool” but if we constantly show sloppy then it sends a bad signal to the other. Having untied shoelaces, shirt untucked or use bright colors may indicate that are disorderly. There will be those who think that just do not care that meeting or that we are also messy to work.
Move eyes upward
Body language can be much more powerful and instantaneous than any words out of our mouths. Looking up or rolling eyes when someone turns to us is a way to send negative signals. Generally, these gestures can be interpreted as disinterest, boredom, fatigue… You better not do these movements during a talk.
“In most parts of the world, a handshake in business is the norm and froming it you can get an idea whether the person is dominant and aggressive or passive,” says Hoppe. Many people know that the hand weakly tightening can spread mistrust and insecurity but there are other signals. if we use your free hand during the grip to grab the wrist, arm or shoulder of the other person we are showing love and trust. In a job interview or meeting with a stranger it is better not to apply those movements.
Watching the time
Watching the time during a conversation will make other people think you are in a hurry and must go. Also transmits the feeling that we have something more important to do. In both cases it will be addressing us who feel uncomfortable or embarrassed. The best thing is that during this talk concentration keep the focus on the other person and not look at the clock.
Sway from one foot to another
We must never change body weight from one foot to the other during a conversation. That gesture usually transmitted physical and mental discomfort. It may also indicate that we want to leave the conversation. Body language specialists recommend changing positions every two or three minutes.
Touching the neck or accommodate the first button of the shirt
“When we feel vulnerable we protect our neck area,” said Hoppe. If we are in a business conversation or important meeting better not accommodate the top button of shirt and touching that area of the body. That gesture conveys insecurity and may also indicate that we want to hide.
Touching the face during conversation
Often we touch our faces during a conversation with others. The body language experts recommend avoiding these actions. Bring hand to mouth during a chat usually means that we are lying. If we touch the nose else can we interpret what we are hearing disappoints. Removing your hands should always face when we are talking about.
Bring hand the pear when you look at someone
Those who study the gestures say hand-to pear when we look at someone else is a counterproductive gesture. This action may indicate that we are judging the other and make him feel uncomfortable. In addition, you will think that what you are saying is not convincing. Again, look straight in the eye when someone is speaking, it will be the best option.
Scratching/Itching your head or neck
Never scratch/itch your head or back of the neck during a conversation in front of others. This will indicate that you have doubts about what you say or you’re not entirely sure of your claims. They can interpret that you’re lying. Always better to keep your hands out of your head when talking.
If we want to demonstrate safety and care then you should sit with your back straight and your head up. This will make who addresses us perceive our interest in his words. A very bad option is to stoop to falls holding our hands or head. This will make others who are bored or interpret the conversation gives discomfort.
A gesture as simple as laughter can transmit both positive and negative feelings to others. Who understand body language and ensure that simple low-intensity smiles generally demonstrate insecurity, lack of confidence or shyness. If we smile, it is best done with high intensity in order to convey security, trust, and kindness.
Besides being an action that frowns, chewing objects such as pencils, pens lenses or transmitted mistrust and insecurity. If we are in a business meeting these gestures can be associated with the way we handle the job. They will also make our job proposals taken with tweezers.
Another aspect to consider when we are in an important meeting is the way you walk. People who do it with eyes down, hands in pockets conveys a sense of defeat. Someone who is concerned usually walks too slowly and hands on the back. Better keep those details if we demonstrate safety to others.
Move your fingers and toes constantly
In a job interview or important social event is not well displayed anxious and nervous. Move the fingers continuously transmits these two feelings and reflect that we are restless. One hit the floor and over the top of the foot is also counterproductive. This action indicates that we have a lack of confidence.
Playing with objects
You should never play with objects or hitting the table with fingers during an important conversation. This will make other people feel that we are insecure. In addition, it will generate almost certainly irritation whom we face due to the decentralization that produce these movements.
Constant blinking eyes during a conversation is a gesture that generates negative feelings. Although it is an almost automatic and almost imperceptibly many people consider it rude. Is an action that usually disturb us who are listening so you’d better try to control it. Beyond that most considered an unconscious act, it can lead to distrust those who played.
Personal care also speaks for us. In the workplace you should bring a neat appearance. Many experts say the untidy or more than two days beard is frowned upon. Also dirty fingernails and hair too long and unkempt. Women should not overburden the makeup or wear too many jewels because it can be produced in other negative feelings.
Stretching the collar or shirt
If we are talking in front of people, one of the worst gestures we can do is to stretch the neck of the shirt by hand. Almost certainly it will all think we are awkward and nervous. Again, experts remind us that the hands should not dominate and that will not be well seen too abrupt movements.
Nail biting and rubbing the eye
One of the worst gestures to perform in front of others, especially in business meetings, is a nail biting. That action will do nothing more than transmit insecurity or nerves. If in addition to this we decided to rub one eye with your index finger will that doubts about what we say to multiply. For the last time: hands must be away from your face during a conversation!