The ego, a word so used but little known about its deep meaning, because it contains powerful qualities, some have been negatively charged, especially when their presence becomes unbearable and falls into the yo-yo.
It’s that ego, in Latin means me.
In psychology, it is called the psychic instance through which the person recognises himself as “I” and is aware of his own “identity.”
That is to say, it is the central part of the consciousness that has the task to give the sense of “itself”. According to the books, the ego activity organises the conscious activity that consists of conscious thoughts, memories, perceptions and feelings.
“Everything that happens to you is measured by your ego.”
Psychologist Fernanda Glaser explains that the ego is one of the components of the personality that allows you to know what the needs are to be met. “In the colloquial language, it is named as an excess of self-esteem and evolves with age”.
He adds that the “I” is understood as an instance of the psychic apparatus, which according to Freudian theory differentiates the external from the internal, helping to reconcile “it” with the outside world. In that sense, he says, it is a function that adapts to both external and internal situations.
“When a person has an exacerbated ego he often has difficulty connecting intimately and satisfactorily with others. In other words, it costs him to understand an ego that is not his”
This would happen because the “I” or ego seeks to satisfy their own needs and motivations, losing sight of those of the outside world, which can almost always affect significant relationships as partners, work and also friends, family.
Now, how is it formed?
Fernanda Glaser responds: “Generally it is constituted from the perception that another has on me, it almost always begins with the mother who is the one who serves as a ‘mirror’ for the baby in the early years.”
The problem is when this formation occurs in such a way that the subject becomes the object of desire and is what happens in narcissistic personalities that are the product of a personal development, “that instead of wanting another, Himself and his self-configures himself according to the libido that circulates in his own imaginary and what he or she thinks that the others think of him or her, being able to acquire paranoid traits, etc. ”
He adds that, in general, narcissists are subjects who lose the proportion of their self and this becomes the centre of the person’s psychic activity.
Its importance and care
So standing in the ego will mean being centred in oneself, which is somewhat detrimental if we consider that human beings are social beings and self-referent all the time, exhausts.
Although living without ego will also be detrimental, because it is the one that gives a sense of identity, organises the ideas, experiences and perceptions of the world.
Moreover, in the journal of philosophy “Nitiare” explain that the ego is composed of multiple Ies or Psychological Defects “that are like real people in our interior: they think, feel and act. Our frustrations arise just when one or more of these psychological defects are not fulfilled by these personal goals. ”
In this sense, the great problem of the ego, which is the constant desire that incites, appears again. That has its positive side because it mobilises and makes people react, but its limit or negativity is when it brings suffering. In the words of Sigmund Freud, “the self is the first step of recognition itself to experience joy, punishment or guilt.”
What kind of ego do I have?
However, on a spiritual level, the excessive ego or individual consciousness would harm personal growth because he does not even know that there is a universal consciousness. Something like “a stopper that prevents the ascent of the mind to superconscious states,” says researcher Ivan Durán Garlick, author of the book “The Ego.” He adds that the mind of a person with little self-awareness is a five-star hotel for the ego. It then indicates that in order to evolve it is necessary to know what kind of ego predominates in the personality and to work it.
To enter into this knowledge, review these categories and find out what classification it is.
- Ego SABELOTODO: It is that ego that always believes to be right, likes to give advice on everything, always answers even if he does not know, he believes he has an answer for everything, he can not remain silent.
- Ego INSACIABLE : It is the ego “center table”, does not like to go unnoticed, does anything to attract attention.
- Ego SWITCH : The need for self-reference is so strong that it interrupts permanently, it never lets others finish speaking.
- Ego ENVIDIOUS : He is the one who does not support the triumphs and successes of others. He degrades those he thinks are better than him.
- Ego PRESTIGIOUS : It is the ego that seeks applause, recognition and admiration in everything it does. He always wants to be the best. He often tells others, “I warned you,” “I knew,” “I told you, but you never listen to me,” etc.
- Ego RIDER : Rides from what others say. It takes advantage of the data of others for their own benefit. Takes advantage of what others say to structure their own interventions. It is copying and usurper.
- Ego Deaf : He never listens, likes to talk to him, usually pretends to listen.
- Ego MANIPULATOR : It is that sly ego that always manages, either by misrepresenting, accommodating, deceiving, lying or justifying so that things always work in its favor.
- PROUD Ego : It’s that competitive, argumentative ego that does not like to lose.
- Ego PREMENTAL (silent): It is that ego that quietly has a parallel discourse, is critical, hypocritical and judgmental.
How to handle with such people?
Just let them be what they are! Listen to them with patience and do things on your own, unless you find them to be right. Never go for a debate otherwise you will end up spoiling your mood.